PASS IT THROUGH A FILTER.
Sandra and Elsie were in a hot argument and Sandra was already crying when their Biology teacher entered the class. All entreaties by their class mates failed to calm Sandra down. She was deeply hurt and bitter over what Elsie had said to her.
When the Biology teacher tried to mediate in the matter, she discovered that Elsie ‘had no filters’.
The Oxford Advanced Learners dictionary defines a filter as “a device containing paper, sand, chemicals that a liquid or gas is passed through in order to remove any materials that are not wanted” – this means that filters are used to remove harmful and unwanted materials.
As human beings, we go through different challenges and situations in life. In dealing with one another, we need to be sensitive to avoid hurting others by what we say or do.
We should endeavor to pass whatever we want to say to another through a filter and be sure our words wouldn’t hurt them unnecessarily, same as our actions. Giving a second thought to whatever we want to say or do is a form of filter.
Some people will always act like they do not care whose ox was gored. Truth is, no man is an island unto himself. Everyone needs the association of others and if you are the type that has refused to put a filter on it; you are bound to lose friends because no one wants to associate with a person who hurts them at will.
If you are that kind of a person who says defamatory things about others behind their backs, please, stop and put a filter on it.
Pass whatever you want to say or do through this four – way test:
- Is it the truth?
- Is it fair to all concerned?
- Will it build goodwill and better friendships?
- Will it be beneficial to all concerned?
If you get an all round yes, then, do not hesitate to say or do it. But, if not, think again.
As teenagers, your parents remain your best filter yet. Whatever you are not proud to tell them, please, do NOT do!
4-way test, credit: Herbert J. Taylor and Rotary International.